5 tips for men: what not to do on the first date
The first date with the object of your adoration may be the last one if you fail to show yourself in the best possible light. And this risk is real because at the start of a relationship, it is psychologically difficult to strike a balance in what should be avoided and what is mandatory.
AskMen offered readers its version of a man's behavior on a first date. Here are some useful tips on this topic from experts.
Show sincere interest
One of the most common mistakes men make on their debut is inattention to the girl, namely the lack of questions about her life and interests.
Tip: The ability to listen reflexively and ask the right follow-up questions will demonstrate to the interlocutor that you are not an egoist with "protagonist" complexes and that you care about your partner's problems.
Emotionality is welcome
The second significant mistake men make is complete emotionlessness. Psychologists advise: don't turn your first date into a job interview. Let your lady see that you are a real person and that you care about something in this life.
Give meaningful compliments
Another big mistake is the lack of meaningful compliments. In this case, experts recommend that you observe moderation in everything and not shower compliments endlessly, even if you say them sincerely.
Kiss or ask permission?
A separate topic on the first date is the possibility of physical contact with your partner. If such a situation arises, it is better to ask the girl if you can kiss her than to do it without permission, risking getting into an awkward situation if she refuses.
Alternatively, in such a situation, psychologists advise telling your partner that you are having a great time, letting them know that you would like to kiss them, and see what they say.
It's important to be prepared for any response and take it as information about the needs of that person, not as a personal insult.
How do I ask to meet again?
If you're having a good time and feel that continuing the relationship makes sense, let them know in advance. It's best to do this at the end of the date to clear up any questions.
Moreover, all you risk in this case is hearing "no." Agree, this is much better than wasting your time on empty hopes.