7 painful but honest signs that you shouldn't even try to fix your relationship with your partner
If you've been in a relationship that's been a mess for a long time, don't fool yourself into thinking that you can turn it into something worthwhile. It's not about you, it's about your partner. It doesn't matter how resourceful, determined, or creative you are.
SSPDaily writes: "Sometimes the person we're dating just isn't right for us. And the sooner we recognize this fact, the less emotional and mental trauma we will end up with."
Here are 7 painful but honest signs that you should end a failed relationship once and for all, rather than patching it up endlessly.
Your views on faith, finances, and family are diametrically opposed
These three difficult areas of existence can create problems even for a loving couple. If you don't respect each other's spiritual choices, you have different approaches to finances, and your views on children and family are radically different, recognize that you are not a couple and move on.
Your life goals and dreams diverge
If you dream of traveling the world, but the best vacation for your beloved is an evening with pizza in front of the TV. Or you dream of taking care of the household and children, while his or her ideals are free creativity with unpredictable income and results, you need to recognize that you have a problem.
And the only hope that something will work out is a mutual decision that your relationship is the top priority, after which you will both make mutual compromises.
You don't feel safe
Physical, mental, emotional, verbal - any form of violence is unacceptable. If any aspect of your safety is threatened in the relationship, don't expect your chosen one to suddenly change dramatically, just leave.
There is no chemistry between you
It's normal for physical attraction to wax and wane in a long-term relationship. But if you feel that it's been absent from day one, don't ignore this warning sign.
This is especially true for women. You shouldn't try to improve your relationship just because you've finally met a "nice guy." You deserve all the happiness you can get, so don't settle for a part of it. Physical attraction is necessary to keep in touch for a long time.
Your partner is emotionally unavailable or refuses to make a commitment
It often happens that two people enter into a relationship without commitment, with different expectations. One of them (usually a man) expects to have fun and date whomever he wants. The other part (usually a woman) expects to sleep together until the man falls in love with her and wants to make her his wife.
Do not get involved in this situation if you want a real relationship. Be upfront about what you are looking for, and if the other person doesn't meet your expectations, go to someone who does.
Drug and alcohol addiction
If the person you care about is in the grip of an addiction, it is not an easy task to establish a relationship with them. Especially when they make no attempts to recover. In this case, it's best to cut off contact as soon as possible.
Your personal growth has stopped
Everyone has the right to be themselves, whether they are single or in a relationship.
You should feel free and supported to change and grow emotionally, mentally, intellectually, and spiritually. If your partner is a threat to your personal growth and tries to control you, get rid of them. Such an alliance has no future.
