Is intelligence important in a relationship? 8 ways to find out how compatible your partner is in terms of IQ
They say that opposites attract. At the same time, research on the psychological compatibility of couples shows that the key to a long-term relationship lies not in differences but in similarities and common goals. And in the very center of this space is the intellectual compatibility of people.
"The level of intelligence," writes SSPDaily, "is not very important in the early stages of a relationship, when emotions and physiology prevail, but over time, its role grows and becomes decisive. And if you are wondering if you and your partner are compatible, pay attention to these 8 signs. They will tell you a lot about the prospects of your union."
You have the same intellectual values
If your partner stays up late watching TV, while you read classic literature, it doesn't mean that you have no future, but it's an obvious sign that you're not on the same page. And sooner or later, one of you will get bored, which will lead to a crisis in the relationship.
You learn from each other
Happy people are the ones who are moving forward, while unhappy people are usually stagnant. This is confirmed by research: couples who practice self-development are more harmonious than those who do not.
You not only sleep together, but also have dreams together
Do you sit down together and talk about your goals, dreams, and vision for the future? By sharing these things, you can understand who your partner is and what is most important to them in terms of overall life satisfaction.
A person who talks about traveling and trying new foods will feel connected to a homebody who always orders different versions of the same dish when they go out.
Intellectually compatible couples have similar ideas about how they see their future together.
You have about the same level of education
Smart means sexy, at least for women. According to one study conducted in Hong Kong, women were 40% less likely to be satisfied (in marriage and sexually) if they were more educated than their husbands.
And while neither you nor your partner need to be geniuses to stay compatible, having roughly the same levels of education means you'll be better able to negotiate things like career, money, and worldview.
You have similar views and attitudes towards current events
There are people who are interested in everything that is happening around them, and there are those who prefer to relax and think about nothing.
Different or similar positions on current events largely determine how strong your relationship will be in the long run.
You can talk about serious things
Psychologists say that the habit of exchanging witty phrases with each other is a way to prevent the other person from getting to know you better. Small talk about nothing is not good for a relationship.
To understand how intellectually compatible you are with a person, pay attention to what you talk about. Do you talk only about the weather and your favorite movies or do you bring up topics that make you think about serious things?
You have a similar sense of humor
Loving similar comedy movies or actors doesn't mean you're intellectually compatible. However, since laughter brings people closer together as much as possible, having completely opposite reasons for it will certainly affect your relationship and may even be one of the reasons for its end.
