Influencer Says Scheduled Intimacy Is the Best Way to 'Keep the Spark Alive'

Influencer Ravena Hanniely believes that scheduling sex with her partner enhances their relationship. With 265,000 followers on Instagram, she shares vibrant details about her life, including her experiences with sex toys and swimwear. Previously in the spotlight for naming her vibrator after footballer Marcus Rashford, she now emphasizes the importance of "intimate schedules." This is prepared by SSP.

Ravena explains that planned "sex sessions" strengthen their connection and fight off a "monotonous" routine. She acknowledges that balancing work and daily responsibilities makes spontaneity challenging. Instead, she meticulously schedules the date, time, and duration for intimacy.

"People may find it strange, but having a fixed time fosters deeper intimacy," she reveals. This strategy decreases the pressure of unrealistic expectations and creates a sense of anticipation. Such anticipation cultivates excitement, allowing them to maintain their spark.

Her current partner supports this practice, unlike some former lovers who struggled with the concept. Ravena recalls, "In the past, some guys viewed scheduling as a joke. They acted as if it was a delivery service." She stresses the reality of busy lives necessitating planning and scheduling.

Reflecting on one ex, she states, "Whenever we arranged a meeting, nerves would take over and nothing would happen." Initially amusing, this pattern became problematic, leading to their breakup due to the mounting pressure. Ravena also shares her experiences with scheduling encounters during her trip to Paris for the Olympics, including a romantic chapter with a woman from Tinder.

Ravena credits a previous BDSM-loving partner with introducing her to the practice. Now, she respects the boundaries of her current partner, David. "BDSM offers a controlled environment to explore power dynamics and intimacy."

She recalls feeling comfortable with her ex while navigating her desires, like domination and submission. Explaining her interests, she mentions voyeurism, role-playing, and exhibitionism.

"The act of commanding enhances my pleasure and joy," says Ravena. She openly ties scheduling and BDSM to boosts in self-esteem, stating that being in control fosters a sense of security. As a busy woman alongside her partner, she reinforces the importance of planning; it eliminates uncertainty and elevates their intimate experiences.