The woman frankly admitted that she did not love her adopted daughter: "I'm so ashamed of it"

By Jurassic JennMar 26, 2024 17:35 PMPersonal Development
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The woman frankly admitted that she did not love her adopted daughter
The woman frankly admitted that she did not love her adopted daughter. Source: www.elle.com

The woman admitted that she does not like her adopted daughter because she "only complains about the little problems in her life".

SSPDaily tells about it.

The housewife adopted her husband's biological daughter after their wedding last year. But since the 13-year-old girl took her into her life, she has made the woman's life a "living hell" with her "moody and rude" behavior.

On Reddit, she wrote: "I am so ashamed of this. My daughter is 13 years old. I adopted her last year. She is my husband's biological child, but her biological mother has been out of the picture since she was 18 months old. I sincerely wish her all the best, but damn it, I don't like her. I am a stay-at-home mom and I devote my life to her and her brother (my biological child). I take her to all her classes, talk to her about her interests and hobbies, meet her friends and arrange sleepovers. Honestly, I spend more time with her than I do with my biological son or husband, simply because of the nature of her schedule and activities."

She says that her daughter is a "good kid" on paper, as she "gets good grades and doesn't do drugs or anything like that," but that doesn't make her life any easier.

"At home, she is a nightmare. She is moody and rude," she added. "Every day I have to walk on eggshells around her. Any comment I make is met with a rude and acerbic reaction in return. She is a vile and inveterate liar. Every day I pick her up from school and her favorite snacks or drinks are waiting for her. I have music that she likes to listen to in the car. I try to greet her with a bright and sunny smile and ask her how her day was. Most of the time she greets me with the words "terrible". I ask her what happened, and she mentions something unbelievable like: "All my friends were trying to talk to me at the same time and I was so annoyed" or "I lost my pencil and it made me angry." The smallest things can completely ruin her day. She gets stuck in her emotions. She has no idea how good her life is. She has pushed all her friends away except one because her mood and attitude are very difficult to deal with."

The woman went on to explain how she had sent her daughter to therapy after "she had a particularly bad anger attack," but it hadn't improved the situation yet. But by forcing her to take this step, the mom admits that she needs therapy too, because she doesn't know how else to help her child.

She said: "We recently started therapy because she clearly can't communicate with me, and my feelings for her won't help this case. Wednesday will be our second session. I'm so nervous about it, I want to find out the cause of her problems as soon as possible so that we can be a happy family again. I honestly don't know why she is so unhappy and angry all the time, but it puts so much pressure on me. This is the moment when I have serious negative thoughts about her and I am afraid to communicate with her. The problem is that I feel like I'm trying to be a good mom and she's still angry, moody and thinks her life is terrible. I also know that this is normal teenage behavior. I feel resentful towards her. I grew up in a family where I had to tiptoe around an abusive alcoholic father and an unstable, mentally ill mother. I was not allowed to show resentment or anger. I think this makes me even angrier at her. It's terrible."

Looking for advice, she took to social media to ask users if there was anything she could do to help her and her daughter get out of this "horrible" situation.

In response, users wrote:

  • My favorite thing about teenagers is how much they want to be left alone. You don't have to greet her with a sunny smile and cheerful conversation. Let her put on her headphones and relax in her hormonal moodiness. Just stand back. Go to therapy and give her space
  • I would stop asking how her day was. When she gets in the car, put on some music and don't say anything. She's a hormonal teenager. Welcome to hell. You may need to talk to someone to help you deal with this
  • My daughter is 13 years old. She is moody and wants to be left alone most of the time. I give her space and welcome interaction when she initiates it. I don't want to burst your bubble, but it's normal for teenagers to be moody and obnoxious. They do stupid things as they push boundaries and try to find themselves - it's part of growing up. Your stepdaughter is growing up, changing, and your idea of a happy family needs to change too, otherwise you will be disappointed
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