He's not interested in you - he's just stalking you: 5 signs you're dating a stalker
If you have the slightest suspicion that you are being stalked after you start dating someone, tell your family and friends about your concerns and be careful. There are several ways to stalk, and each of them means that you could get in trouble if you get too close to such a person.
SSPDaily warns: "Maybe you're just imagining it, but you may have encountered a stalker." By definition, a stalker is a person who is engaged in stalking, i.e., harassing others.
For your information, stalking is a form of harassment and intimidation that is expressed in the pursuit of the victim and surveillance. Typical stalker behaviors include constant phone calls and insults over the phone, sending unwanted gifts, tracking and spying. Statistics show that both men and women of any ethnicity and social type can be stalkers.
Get to know the 5 most common signs of stalker behavior so you don't make the mistake of trying to build a relationship with an "inadequate" person.
He looks at you too closely
Although stalkers may look different at first glance, they all have one important characteristic in common: they are goal-oriented people. And if a stalker decides that you are the one he needs, he will go all the way.
A characteristic detail: a stalker is distinguished by strong eye contact. At first, this look may even be pleasant, because you get a wave of close attention. However, you should realize that such intensity has a dark side.
He knows things about you that you haven't told him
Stalkers are a lot like detectives: their task is to get as much information about a person as possible. Therefore, they may ask anyone they know or meet about you.
In general, such people spend a lot of time researching their chosen targets, going far beyond the usual Internet search or browsing social media.
A stalker wants to know everything: where you live, where you go to the gym, where you work, what kind of transportation or route you take to get to work, and who you communicate with. And often, such stalkers make a characteristic mistake that can be used to track them down - they reveal details about the victim's life that they did not tell them. So be vigilant!
He takes a detailed interest in the photos or messages you post online
Social media is a breeding ground for a stalker. He will study your accounts and check them several times during the day. Such a person is driven by a desire for control, and getting as much information about you as possible makes them feel like they have that control.
When someone you've started dating persistently asks about people you've taken pictures with or places you've been, take it seriously.
He comes unannounced, even if he was told not to come
Showing up unannounced is one of the main signs that your chosen one is a stalker. In this case, you feel puzzled and nervous because deep down, your instincts tell you that this is clearly inappropriate behavior and that your boundaries of privacy have been violated.
Keep in mind, a stalker may not only come to your home; he may show up at work, at your friends' houses, or anywhere else he thinks he can find you.
He is aggressive and violent when he is angry
A stalker wants you to belong only to him. He does not want to share you with friends or anyone. If this person begins to suspect that you are withdrawing, they will panic because they are afraid that the relationship will be broken.
If you show too much independence, the stalker will try to force you to cancel any plans or take him or her with you wherever you go.
If you draw the line and say no, the stalker may even use physical force to force you to do what he wants.
Always warn your neighbors, friends, and family if you start dating someone who has made you a little nervous in some way. As soon as you realize that you are feeling anxious about something your partner has done, don't be alone with him or her and don't go far away from home with him or her.
